Foreword to Second Edition of “WHY ME? My Journey from M.E. to Health and Happiness” by Shirley Conran

It is said that everyone has a book in them. This is not true: some people don’t
have even a paragraph. However, Alex Howard is a walking library: first there’s
the story of Man battling against Adversity, then Man on a Quest, followed by
a Medical Detective and finally Love Story with Happy Ending when two
people part.

I always want to know what happened after the end of a book, particularly so
when, some years ago, I read Alex Howard’s WHY ME? because Alex and I
have something in common: M.E.

Forty years ago, when I was Woman’s Editor of the Daily Mail, I went into
hospital with viral pneumonia and came out with M.E., to face a wall of medical
disbelief that I was ill. My GP sent me to three different “experts”; quickly, I
realised that they were psychiatrists, quickly I realised that they were wrong in
their diagnoses: I am not workshy, I do not need to draw attention to myself and
I am not a hypochondriac. Quickly I realised that the medical profession was
saying, “If we cannot find anything physically wrong with you, then you must
be mad, to some degree.” When I realised that it was the medical profession that
was wrong, I decided to avoid their Kafkaesque attitudes and deal by myself
with the symptoms of my illness.

However, when every medical expert is telling you that black is white, when
your family is worried about your odd behaviour, and when you lose your job
and your income, you probably will need a psychiatrist. Eventually I met one,
who said, “I’m going to assume that everything you say is true”. He understood
my contempt for psychiatrists and from then on, he helped me deal with my
symptoms. Once he scribbled a note to my new GP. “What have you told him?”
I snapped. He took the note out of the envelope and handed it to me. It read,
“Dear Colleague, contrary to what you may at first believe, this patient tells the
truth. Yours sincerely, Jonathan Gould”. So he meant what he had said, when
first we met.

One day my mother said, “You’ve changed for the better, since you met that
Dr Gould”. Certainly, I had stopped being an appeasing, unctuous, eyelashbatting, role-playing little woman. Now, I didn’t care what people thought of me, but what I thought of those people; now I stood up for my own opinions; I
became friendly with my body; I learned to be my true self. I grew up.

Eventually, I no longer had money problems: I could afford to have M.E.
because I made a fortune in property and another fortune when I became an
international author. I travelled round the world eight times, seven of those at the
expense of my publishers. I was able to financially help my children when they
needed it.

One day I realised that the silver lining of M.E. is that it pushes you onto your
own resources; it forces you to think for yourself and to create your own
disciplines and determination, because the only person that can understand your
condition and improve it …is YOU.

Dr Gould died and for the next twenty years I spent a fortune trying everything that claimed to cure or help M.E. None of it worked.

Then I read a book and immediately identified with the young author, who
had been bedridden for two years as a teenager. Alex Howard eventually earned
a first class degree in psychology and Swansea University should be proud of

“WHY ME?” was a gangly, exuberant book and the dynamism and
determination of the author shone beyond the grammatical errors (I’m still an
editor!). Three years ago, I actually met Alex. Meeting someone with M.E,
forced to lead a similar life to yours, is like meeting someone who comes from
your home town and speaks your language, after you have spent years in a
foreign land. Because Alex had dealt so successfully with his illness – and was
clearly helping others to do so – I decided to ask for his help. So Alex became
my mentor. We talk for an hour every fortnight. My health and my well being
have improved considerably.

Often when a new edition of a book is published, it adds nothing much of
value. But, the added chapters of WHYME? kept me up beyond midnight, and
I used the highlighter so much that some pages are almost yellow
Alex takes the reader along his journey through adversity to success; he does
not hesitate to tell of his stupid behaviour: he succumbed to the temptation of
overworking and he suffered the consequences. He struggled financially and
emotionally to reach his well-deserved success, both personally and with his
clinic The Optimum Health Clinic.

In this new edition, the autobiographical sequence – what Alex did next – is
followed by three transcripts of TV interviews with the three directors of The
Optimum Health Clinic. And – to use two of Alex’s favourite adjectives – these
chapters are incredibly amazing.

I shall re-read them tonight, and often afterwards, because – to my surprise -
just reading these added chapters has taken me a step further in my own M.E.
quest for health. I nearly wrote “battle with M.E.”, but I no longer regard M.E.
as my enemy. I look upon my symptoms as messages from my body that I
reached burnout in the past because of my determined, stressful, body-ignoring
behaviour. I now suspect that my M.E. is partly the result of living a
hardworking, exciting, adrenal-filled life in a way that my body could no longer
tolerate, but that I refused to face.

For three years, I have argued with Alex that complete recovery in M.E. is
not possible.

Now, I am not so sure.

Having read this new edition of “WHY ME?” I have a new courage, a new
willingness to explore where I have – until now – refused to go. I have a new
optimism based on facts that I know are scientifically proven, not some
mindless, new, fix-fast “discipline”. My determination has been renewed. I feel
that I have just started to take the next step towards… dare I say it…recovery. I
wish you the same good fortune.

Shirley Conran OBE
London, August 2009


  • By Sally Radnor, November 5, 2009 @ 2:38 pm

    Excellent foreward. That in itself has convinced me to buy the 2nd edition, though have read the first.

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